Securing your Insecurities

We spend so much time ignoring our insecurities even though it can greatly impact how you react to the world around you. I know personally when I react negatively in a situation, it is probably being fueled by an insecurity. It took me a loooooooong time to realize this is what was happening and still sometimes I react and don't realize there is an insecurity behind that negative reaction.

The thing that is even more difficult than understanding your own insecurities, is realizing that other people's reactions are often also fueled by one of their insecurities. It often isn't about you but about their insecurity that that is causing a behavior or negative reaction. But in the heat of the moment....man...sometimes other's reactions feel personal. Even if deep down, the reaction is more personal to them than it is to you.

In relationships or in interactions with other people, so often it involves two insecurities battling each other. I think this is what causes issues with communication between two people. Hangups or beliefs about oneself color all interactions without us even realizing it. As I talked about in my previous post, I have problems with not taking responsibility for other people's feelings. Even when I can sit back and see that someone is reacting or acting in a certain way based on their own personal insecurity. It is hard for me to not take it personal or feel responsible for fixing that person or making them feel better. The reality is, I can't fix that person or that insecurity that is causing a negative behavior. You can't either. We are not responsible for other people's insecurities.

We are however responsible for our own insecurities. I'm personally working on chipping away at those insecurities and trying to get a handle on them. Securing them if you will. Determining if they are true or if my mind just believes they are true. I think getting a handle on my insecurities will help me to react in a better way in situations. At the very least it will make me feel better on the inside if I define and explore what my brain is telling me about myself. The key is to find the real Weesa and not the Weesa my brain has manufactured based on experiences or outside forces.